When are you good enough?

 'Everyday, She pauses in the middle of whatever She is doing and asks herself these same questions, doubting whatever She has ever learned, ever achieved. "Am I good enough at this?" "Do I hold a chance against all the people out there?" "Will I ever be good enough?" The same wretched questions tearing at her daily.'

This is a situation that almost every teenager goes through on a daily basis. So many people, trying to find the answer to this simple question, 'Am I good enough?', only to realize that there is no one who can answer it. No one except themselves. In today's world, people have complete exposure to all the content on social media. And this exposure has led people to ask this same question for almost everything that they earlier were comfortable with. People have started doubting their abilities, their talents, their friends and families, their appearance, their entire existence. And isn't questioning yourself to find some sort of validation just a terrible ordeal? 

In fact, what does the word 'enough' even mean? Who or what defines the word 'enough'? It's definitely not the social media, where people can put fake, edited content as easily as one breathes. It's definitely not that all-rounder cousin whose life is so much different than yours. It's definitely not that next-door neighbour who does nothing but sit and gossip all day long. It's probably getting overly dramatic at this point of time with all the rhetoric questions, but honestly, who decides what 'enough' means? Obviously, it is you. No one knows you better than you do (Which in itself is probably another huge topic). You know your abilities, your hobbies, your talents, your history, your experiences, your comforts, your happy place. You know what your life has been like till this point of time. So how can we expect anyone else to ever decide for us if we are good enough?   

Our world has become so competitive that people will do anything to move forward, including tearing others down. Today, there is no one's opinion that you can trust more than your own opinion. After all, you are the best judge of your own character. And comparing yourself with others around you is probably the most senseless and ridiculous thing that you can do. 

So to answer the question, 'When are you good enough?', the truth is that you are good enough when you decide so, when you have enough confidence in yourself that you don't start doubting your worth as soon as someone criticizes you, when you are able to present your thoughts, your opinions, your views even when the entire world opposes them. You are good enough when you finally feel satisfied with what you have done. When people say that they will consider themselves good enough when they finally achieve success, they actually do nothing but limit themselves and their dreams. Because success can't be defined. Each person has their own meaning of success. And if you are waiting for someone else to tell you "Yes, I think you are successful now", then don't. Because if you seek validation from others, then you will never consider yourself to be good enough.

So, in conclusion, stop being so harsh to yourself. You are human, and by letting others decide your worth, you are giving them control of your life. You are good enough at any moment that YOU choose to be.

Byee for now.